3 Things We All Need

I have just finished reading Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly: How The Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love,Parent and Lead.  One of the major premise of the book that I  wanted to share with you, is her belief that as humans there are three things we need: Love, Connection and Belonging…


WE cultivate Love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.

Love is not something we give or get: it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each of them-we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows.  Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.


Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us.  Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it.  Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.


Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement.

Does this resonate with you?  I know it sure did for me.

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