Calgary EFT Community

Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship

Yolanda von Hockauf

Schedule: November 6th – 9th, 2017
                  8:30 am – 5:00 pm
        Cost: $1195.00 (early bird registration before  Oct. 1st, 2017)
                  $1295.00 (regular rate after October 1st, 2017)
 Included: Training manual, CD containing EFT articles,
                   coffee breaks, & certificate of attendance
Location: Holiday Inn South,
                  4206 MacLeod Trail,
                                                     Room Rate $139.00 per night
                                  Presenter: Yolanda von Hockauf, M. Ed.
                                                     Registered Marriage & Family Therapist
                                                    Certified EFT Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer

Certification: This training is approved by ICEEFT as the first step towards certification as an Emotionally Focused Therapist.  For more about certification, go to

Preparation: Externship participants are encouraged to read The Practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: Creating Connections, and Hold Me Tight, both by Dr. Sue Johnson.

Sue Johnson invites you to attend the EFT Externship

Workshop description

Train in the leading approach to couples therapy, providing a clear road map and solid research base for helping couple transform relationship struggles into relationship harmony.

Developed in the 1980’s by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg, EFT is a short term structured approach to helping distressed couples transform their relationship. Based on the attachment model, this approach places emphasizes on the importance of emotions in shaping both inner experience and significant patterns of interaction that occur in couple’s relationships. Emotion is viewed as a powerful agent of change in therapy, not just an expression of marital distress. Through expanding partners’ emotional experience around basic attachment needs and structuring change events to shift pattern of negative interactions, EFT therapists help couples create a more secure and safe bond in their relationship.

Based on extensive research

Over 20 years of scientific research demonstrating a high success rate

70-75% of couples move from relationship distress to recovery, and

Approximately 90% of couples improve their level of satisfaction in the relationship.

Are you a therapist looking to advance or train in couples therapy

  • As a therapist do you sometimes feel lost, like you are flying by the seat of your pants when working with couples?
  • Looking for new intervention strategies to revitalize your couples work?
  • Wanting to train in marriage counselling?

Couples come to therapy looking for help to deal with their ongoing and repetitive arguments that are causing disconnection in their relationship.

These couples often bring highly intense and reactive emotion in to the therapy room, which can be unnerving for the therapist. It can be confusing and difficult to know what to do. When this happens the therapeutic process can be hijacked or bogged down.

When we lack knowledge on how to work with negative emotions that escalate between partners, it is normal to feel overwhelmed and we inadvertently shut down the clients emotions.

Closing down the clients emotions provide containment and helps you feel more in control of the session. However, this causes you to miss the opportunity to use the expressed emotions to help partners gain access and help them express the deeper hurts that underlie their arguments. Guiding and supporting partners in sharing their vulnerable feelings experienced in the relationship, helps them evoke and express compassion toward each other. This also empowers them to become aware and assertive about their needs in the relationship.

Helping couples connect on this deeper level, not only leaves you feeling more in control of the sessions, but allows you to facilitate healing couple’s relationship bond.

EFT will enable you to:

  • Discover a remarkably effective road map for navigating couples through conflict deadlock
  • Learn how to harness their emotions to help couples create and maintain a close connection
  • Help your couples experience bonding emotions and find their happily ever after

EFT offers:

An Attachment Framework

Model of adult love helps you to formulate the couple’s presenting issues through an attachment lens and get to the heart of their problems.

A Roadmap to Heal Distressed Relationships

1st Stage: Cycle De-escalation, help couples unlatch from conflict, ease tension, and diffuse power struggles. Typically, frequency and intensity of conflict decline markedly, creating safety for the second stage of therapy,

2nd stage: Reconnection enhances relationship intimacy. During Reconnection, the partners learn to communicate their needs in a manner that creates closeness and enhances responsiveness to each other.

3rd stage: Consolidation, New ways of interacting come together as partners resolve long standing issues in their relationship and prepare to end therapy.

Strategies for Even the Most Challenging Couples

EFT helps overcome hurdles known to impede the effectiveness of other therapies. Research finds EFT to be highly effective with couples who present with poor prognostic indicators (for other therapeutic approaches), such as, very low marital satisfaction and partners lacking in emotional awareness.

Effective Interventions for Breaking Through Relationship and Therapeutic Impasses

Intervention techniques are specifically designed to break through highly stuck relationship impasses and attachment injuries.

Methods that are Adaptable to Specific Populations

EFT adapted to working with specific populations such as, trauma survivors and partners suffering from low sexual desire and other sexual problems. EFT is remarkably effective with couples in which one partner suffers from depression, low self-esteem, or anxiety.

Learning Goals and Objectives

The 28 Hour Externship includes the following:

  • Observation of live couples session (dependent upon participant referral of a suitable couple)
  • Viewing of the EFT change process from taped sessions
  • Presentations of the framework and clinical techniques to move through the 9 steps
  • Skill training exercises

About the Presenter:

Yolanda von Hockauf, M. Ed. Yolanda is a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist and a founding director of the Vancouver Couple & Family Institute (VCFI). A therapist in the original research study on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in 1983, Yolanda has been using this approach since it was established. Her skills as a Certified EFT Therapist are widely sought.

Yolanda has been a consultant and trainer to other psychotherapists since 1991 and frequently travels internationally to teach. She is an American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) Approved Supervisor and a Certified Trainer in Emotionally Focused Therapy – the most well-researched and proven approach to relationship distress.